"Haimatox" (haimatox)
01/21/2015 at 21:48 • Filed to: None
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"Haimatox" (haimatox)
01/21/2015 at 21:48 • Filed to: None | 0
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WARNING: Possible high school drama ahead. Anyways, here is Sébastien Loeb in action at the Monte-Carlo Rally, taken from WRC's Twitter page.
Have you ever been in a situation in which you want to help someone so badly, but you know you can't? That's the situation I'm facing with my girlfriend. Two weeks ago, she had a fallout with some of her old (now ex-) friends. A really bad fallout, apparently. I haven't got a clue as to what happened, because she refuses to talk about it and I don't want to press her. She hasn't been the same at all since then, and I haven't had a real conversation with her for almost a week. She said she wants space and time to figure her stuff out on her own. It hurts to see someone you care about so much having to go through these problems and knowing there's nothing you can really do to help. Sigh.
bob and john
> Haimatox
01/21/2015 at 21:53 |
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ehhhh. nothing you can really do. tell her your there if she needs to vent, and cuddlle with her a bit more then normal. other wise, nothing really.
DO NOT TALK TO HER FRIENDS. as she can interpret this as you going around her back and tht just wont end well.
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Haimatox
> bob and john
01/21/2015 at 21:55 |
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Yeah. That thing about the friends is good advice. Luckily, I don't know a whole lot of her friends, and the only ones I know are still her best.
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bob and john
> Haimatox
01/21/2015 at 21:58 |
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yea...I mean, if you REALLY want to, talk to some of their frends (friend of the now ex friends) and see what happened, but other wise...ehh.
buy her chocolate and flowers. they usually help get a girls mind of things
$kaycog
> Haimatox
01/21/2015 at 22:14 |
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She needs her space right now. She'll talk about it when ready.
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Haimatox
> $kaycog
01/21/2015 at 22:17 |
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Yeah, I figured that would be the case. No rush.
Spoon II
> Haimatox
01/21/2015 at 22:18 |
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Agreed with some of these comments. Tell her you're there for her, and maybe do a nice little gesture like the flowers/chocolates suggestion. At least that'll ease her mind a bit and let her know that you care.
yamahog
> bob and john
01/21/2015 at 22:32 |
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always be sure she actually likes flowers and chocolate... otherwise it's just cliche as hell.
it's been a great litmus test for me though: "thanks, but we've been dating for how long and you just assumed I like flowers because....?"
seriously they're a pain in the ass, super fragile, and die in a week even if you trim the stems and give them water. lame.
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bob and john
> yamahog
01/21/2015 at 22:58 |
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NTS: if ever dating yamahog, dont buy her flowers.
motorcycle parts good?
Svend
> Haimatox
01/21/2015 at 23:00 |
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As some have suggested. Give her, her space but let her know you're there for a talk, rant, cuddle, etc... It's hard taking a step back when what you really want to do is step forward but taking the step back is sometimes what's needed.
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yamahog
> bob and john
01/22/2015 at 07:13 |
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just be thoughtful, instead of defaulting to "chicks like this shit, right?"
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bob and john
> yamahog
01/22/2015 at 08:14 |
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honestly,. your the first girl I've ever come across that doesnt like them.
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yamahog
> bob and john
01/22/2015 at 17:13 |
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You'd be surprised, since most people who don't like them will politely thank you anyway and leave you none the wiser.